Power Of Vulnerability

September 5th, 2017 | Added to: K's Journey | Comments Off on Power Of Vulnerability

The power of my vulnerability when I spoke my truth on that TEDx stage was that ‘my connections deepened rather than weakened’. You see I spent so long, 18 years in fact, allowing my fear brain to run the show, telling me that if I were to come out, if I were to talk about these things, that everyone would reject me. I spent so much time focused on that I never, ever gave any real thought to what this could look like, if I were to open up. Do […]

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When we numb pain, we numb joy

August 2nd, 2017 | Added to: K's Journey | Comments Off on When we numb pain, we numb joy

“The research shows that when we numb pain, we numb joy.” Now pain may be one word for it, another might be discomfort, fear… What I realized was that you need to be best friends with fear, whether you like it or not! I started working on a project shortly after that TEDx talk I gave, and I learned something that changed the way I think & feel about fear, and pain, and discomfort. I worked with a psychotherapist who said to me, “The research shows that when we numb pain, we […]

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I have herpes

July 27th, 2017 | Added to: K's Journey | Comments Off on I have herpes

I have herpes. ‘My heart is beating outside of my chest, terrified at the very thought of speaking these words  aloud, still after all these years. But I want to share my pretty little secret with you. I have herpes. Such a simple little sentence. 3 little words, but so hard for me to say. For a long time, I didn’t even call it that, I couldn’t even say the word, herpes. I would call it X. I would write in my journal, X. X everywhere. X marked the spot. […]

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Shame & Vulnerability In The Workplace.

July 19th, 2017 | Added to: Uncategorized | Comments Off on Shame & Vulnerability In The Workplace.

Shame & vulnerability in the workplace, showed up for me as dysfunctional behavior, self-sabotaging behavior, self-loathing behavior’. ‘Success camouflaged all of my unworthiness’. Even when I was in the top 100 of 120,000 sales agents worldwide. It was almost like the success didn’t mean anything because underneath shame was running the show.  (Click the image below to watch the video) You see, we don’t get to separate out, our personal life, and our business life. Shame insidiously infects our self worth, our self esteem, our confidence, the choices that we […]

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Where might fear be robbing you of your dreams?

July 11th, 2017 | Added to: K's Journey | Comments Off on Where might fear be robbing you of your dreams?

As a motivational speaker I often speak on overcoming FEAR. Click the image below to watch a short video clip on this topic. Some time back, I had an epiphany ‘that everything great in my life has always had fear attached to it’. If I think back at say 18 years old when I was traveling on a plane for the first time, or 20 years old going to Europe & traveling around the world on my own, 21 years old entering the real estate industry, being one of the few young […]

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Secrets & The Transformational Power Of Truth

October 11th, 2016 | Added to: K's Journey | Comments Off on Secrets & The Transformational Power Of Truth

Secrets ruled my life for decades…and sharing my secret was one of the hardest & best things that I have ever done. What would you do, if you weren’t afraid?  That very question was something, that I wouldn’t have answered 2 years ago, to myself let alone publicly. I believe that we all want to be seen, to be fearless, to live authentically, and yet most of us hide, in big and small ways. Research shows that one of the biggest fears that leaders have, is what others will think […]

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TEDx Talk – STD’s, Shame & Secrets

February 11th, 2014 | Added to: K's Journey | Comments Off on TEDx Talk – STD’s, Shame & Secrets

 TEDx Talk – STD’s, Shame & Secrets.  I shared my story deepest secret on stage. Everyone reading this most likely has a secret or something they don’t share with others that holds some shame, guilt or stigma and is possibly something they keep bottled up for fear of rejection & judgement. The stats vary from 1 in 3 to 1 in 8 for most things…someone reading this will suffer from depression, suicidal thoughts, or have been a victim of child abuse or bullying, been raped, had a eating disorder or addiction–the […]

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You’re Only As Sick As Your Secrets – TEDx Talk

November 17th, 2013 | Added to: K's Journey | Comments Off on You’re Only As Sick As Your Secrets – TEDx Talk

‘You’re Only As Sick As Your Secrets’ my TEDx Talk title really says it all.  I am honoured and excited to be presenting at this years TEDX Malibu Through building my talk show KirstyTV and hearing people share their deepest darkest secrets from incest to rape, to eating disorders and addictions. I have seen first hand the impact of keeping secrets & the damage that guilt and shame does. To the incredible healing powers and sense of freedom that comes from sharing our secrets. It takes courage, vulnerability & guts to do it but it is […]

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